1. Don’t try to settle long-term relationship conflicts or disputes during the holidays.
2. Set aside some time for nuclear/immediate family traditions.
3. Shop early and save the holiday time for the non-commercial aspects of Christmas.
4. Take time for yourself to reflect and enjoy.
5. Take time off during the holidays.
6. Keep things as simple as possible.
7. Don’t believe you have to do it all to make Christmas happen. Instead, pick two or three meaningful rituals (is cleaning the house really meaningful?), and focus on them.
8. Don’t go into debt. Ask yourself if it really is a gift to your children to have a stressed-out parent for the rest of the year because of too much debt.
9. Seek professional help if you need it. Despite your best efforts, you may find yourself feeling persistently sad or anxious, plagued by physical complaints, unable to sleep, irritable and hopeless, and unable to face routine chores. If these feelings last for a while, talk to a mental health professional.